THE LOVE - GIVING HEART
Having met many couples and been into so many weddings, I’ve gotten to meet so many different characters, different relationship dynamics, and of course, different stories and different journeys. And every time I talk to a couple, their personalities and their chemistries always come through. For Ryan and Mely, they are definitely two similar people, the sweet and romantic type at that.
For most people, you are your most romantic version when you are in your first relationship. First love, first date, first surprise, people are just still very excited and passionate about these new experiences. Yet after you grow older, most of the time your relationship dynamic would change. Though this is definitely not the case with Ryan and Mely! Their romance never seems to grow dim even after years of being together.
Ryan used to live in Chicago, while Mely was in St. Louis, Missouri. He used to drive 10hours return just to visit Mely and spend some hours with her! When Ryan came back to Indonesia for good, they had to celebrate their anniversary separately. Yet, they would go the extra mile to cook the same dish, dress up nicely, and have their dinner together via video call. Similarly with Mely, as her love language is gift-giving, she never fails to make the most thoughtful gifts for Ryan. From self-crafted cards, to a video taken at all the date locations they visited together back in the States, she just never ran out of ideas.
Listening to their stories, I love how they always have this giving mentality. Relationship is about giving love and being loved. Yet for them, instead of asking for more affections, they always shower each other with love in action. Tirelessly at that. I think this is a very important habit we should nurture in a relationship. You know, it is human nature that if we keep thinking of the things we need, we will never feel enough. But if both parties focus their minds in solely giving love, everyone will be filled with overflowing love and continues to feel appreciated. I think building this mentality from the beginning is crucial as after years of marriage, people often get used to receiving love that they take it for granted. So, if we start a marriage with the right mindset, I think it will result in a healthier relationship in the longer run. For this lesson, I thank you, Ryan and Mely!